Admittedly, I’ve been collecting this list of habits, actions, and changes that seem small but can completely change the trajectory of our nervous system. I figured I wouldn’t hold onto this note in my phone anymore. This one needed to see the light.
Don’t hold your pee
15 min daily walk
When someone holds the door for you, don’t run to catch it
When a car lets you across, don’t run
Do not read for hours on end. Read, digest. Pick the book back up later
Let the Black sales lady help you in the store
Take snacks/water offered to you at dealerships, stores, etc
Don’t help the waiter take your dirty plates away
Leave 10 minutes before you’re supposed to leave
Try on the outfit the night before
Keep an emergency stash of outfits that are already put together
Keep a girl bag in your car that contains everything you’d need to get ready at home — including clothes
Fill your tank on Sunday evenings
Cook at home
Tailor your weekly menu and stick to it
Pick one Sunday each month to learn how to cook a new dish
Ask store associates for help instead of struggling to find things
Get a basket in every store — small basket or big one. Just don’t hold things in your hands
Curate a playlist for chaotic days, sad days, rainy days, good days
Find a hobby you’ll never feel the need to monetize
Peel pieces from your closet you haven’t worn in 12+ months
Don’t ’run to the store’. Plan store trips
Read emails thoroughly
Give yourself permission
Save (vacation savings, shopping savings, hair savings, girls night savings, etc)
Don’t DIY everything.
Birth control
Quiet hours
Abortions + Emergency contraception
Therapy
Monthly massages
Ending calls prematurely
Compartmentalizing relationships
Scheduling time to pleasure yourself
Take the necessary precautions at the first sign of sickness
Create stricter boundaries
Plan your weeks. Plan your days
A master to-do list that’s always at your fingertips
Buy holiday cards at the beginning of each year (birthday, graduation, etc)
Business hours (specific hours each week dedicated to adulting)
Bedtime fragrance
The same password (across devices and websites)
Make almost everything special (add some whimsy)
Choose your home based on the master bathroom and the kitchen
Get dressed for bed
Buy your jeans a size up and tailor them to your body
Mount a television on a rolling stand for Sunday night bath time
Cry during showers
Get fitted for your bras
Don’t commit to things too fast
Cancel plans
Create a nightly ritual
Spend time being bored
Romanticize the life you crave
Break up with him
Warm showers —you’ll stay longer
Listen to wordless music
Facials (at home OR by an esthetician)
Buying house robes
Wearing house shoes (that NEVER exit your home)
Hire a wash + fold laundry service
Declutter your dresser
Study something religiously
Lotion your skin before bed
Go alone
Buy candles and a cupcake to celebrate things—everything
Host a dinner party
Give your soap bar a gold (or silver) plate
Study a new vocabulary word every week
Play with your pussy
Don’t leave home without earrings
Follow a strict daily schedule (become predictable to yourself)
Go with a mocktail instead
Teeth whitening strips
Manicures. French.
Cinema dates (alone)
Less fast food
Chop your fruit + veggies (ready to grab and go in the fridge)
Glassware (not plastic for packing lunch and snacks)
Avoid the microwave
Keep your hair situated (styled)
Study the word (whatever your religion may be)
Go to bed early (like an old couple)
Visit the young girl inside of you. Make sure she’s okay. Make sure you’re making her proud.
xo,
grey
and just like that “sundays are for Substack” is well again…🤎 thank you for sharing….also, I feel seen especially in not helping the waiter take my plate away 😅
I love a good robe… Have a few… glad it’s not considered extra anymore