It’s so interesting that you bring this up because growing up, I too often was told to stay away from the mirror or “you’re always in the mirror.” At 35, I’m finally realizing that I’m becoming the vain woman and learning to exercise my pretty privilege as well.
You’ve put thoughts from my heart onto this Substack. As someone who has been called selfish as i choose to pour into myself unapologetically this resonates so much with me. But the older i get, the more im learning not to take offense to that. It means, im caring for myself well.
I used to find myself wondering if I was being conceited because of the way I started to spend time with myself, choosing to really see myself, and love on myself. But I realized that it was just that I wasn’t used to doing for myself…just others. So I’m choosing to be even more selfish. Be vain or haughty. It’s about time!
This is the era of my life I am entering into…it feels amazing…it’s exciting…it’s nerve wracking(trying to embrace this natural transition), but I love it!😆
This was a fantastic article. You nailed every experience a woman like this go through. It's a tough world out there who will try to destroy ones confidence. Buy a woman who is confident with who she is....is not having it. She will always choose herself first.
I love a good “right in your face” reminder of remembering who the fuck you are!
I was raised to “stay out the mirror.”
So when I encounter “vain women” I feel inspired to spend a few more minutes in the mirror everyday.
Still learning to exercise my pretty privilege.
It’s so interesting that you bring this up because growing up, I too often was told to stay away from the mirror or “you’re always in the mirror.” At 35, I’m finally realizing that I’m becoming the vain woman and learning to exercise my pretty privilege as well.
Confidence will always be mistaken for arrogance. I loved this article! It resonates ✨
My favorite quote in thus entire phenomenal piece:
"This time, one of us will be remembered for doing something for ourselves.”
I wish I could print this and frame it !!!!!
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You’ve put thoughts from my heart onto this Substack. As someone who has been called selfish as i choose to pour into myself unapologetically this resonates so much with me. But the older i get, the more im learning not to take offense to that. It means, im caring for myself well.
We need to de-stabilize the word “selfish” from being an insult used to knock a woman down.
We need to de-stabilize the word “selfish” from being an insult used to knock a woman down.
I used to find myself wondering if I was being conceited because of the way I started to spend time with myself, choosing to really see myself, and love on myself. But I realized that it was just that I wasn’t used to doing for myself…just others. So I’m choosing to be even more selfish. Be vain or haughty. It’s about time!
This is the era of my life I am entering into…it feels amazing…it’s exciting…it’s nerve wracking(trying to embrace this natural transition), but I love it!😆
I love everything about this perspective!
Ooooh, I absolutely love this 💖
Nahhh I love this 🙌. This kind of perspective is needed 🤎
This was a fantastic article. You nailed every experience a woman like this go through. It's a tough world out there who will try to destroy ones confidence. Buy a woman who is confident with who she is....is not having it. She will always choose herself first.
Another great read, keep at it! 🩰🌸✨🤍
This post was SPOT ON! Absolutely loved.
Signed,
- a vain woman
Wow! Just wow!!! Being vain literally saved my life in my instances! 💗
Being selfish is a good thing.