it's your p*ssy. show him how it works.

Because a learning curve in the bedroom is one curve your sensitive parts don't need.

When that familiar throb begins between your thighs, there’s a certain way it needs to be rubbed away… kissed away… stroked away… sucked away… licked away…

And there’s nothing more disappointing than having a willing participant who simply doesn’t know how you need it that particular day… time… place…

Because, let’s face it, how you want to be handled today is probably not how you want to be handled this weekend. Or tomorrow morning. Or during lunch hour.

We don’t have time for him to figure it out—every time, because every time things change. Needs change. Desires change. Climate changes. The last thing you want your partner to do is fail the pop quiz.

Set him up for success.

Give him the study guide. Hand over your notes. No one knows your body like you do.

I want to die a well-fucked woman.

If you do not wish to do the same, this post is not for you. Keep scrolling Substack.

Since my late twenties, I’ve been trying to wrap my head around the concept of a woman’s selflessness during the most intimate moments of her life.

Namely… sex.

Studies prove that women rarely reach their orgasmic transition during sex with their partner. However, almost 100% of the time, men climax.

The difference is staggering. And, there’s only one explanation.

Women often shrink in the bedroom, giving men more room to expand.

But, in order to die a well-fucked woman, you must reserve space for your pussy to unleash its powers.

If you’re completely satisfied with everything your partner is doing in bed and you do not have trouble getting to higher grounds, then your read ends here.

If you’re considering opening your drawer and grabbing your vibrator once he’s fast asleep beside you, then keep reading.

Understand that this article isn’t to criticize the effort of men, because most of them try. However, there’s often a learning curve… as I’ve stated…

When that familiar throb begins between your thighs, there’s a certain way it needs to be rubbed away… kissed away… stroked away… sucked away… licked away…

And there’s nothing more disappointing than having a willing participant who simply doesn’t know how you need it that particular day… time… place…

Because, let’s face it, how you want to be handled today is probably not how you want to be handled this weekend. Or tomorrow morning. Or during lunch hour.

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“I want to die a well-fucked woman.”

My declaration was formed strictly due to my willingness to help orchestrate my well-fucked reality.

I am not a robot. I will not lie down and accept every stroke or every touch or every lick that is handed to me.

Because I understand that my submission only materializes after my partner has mastered my course. Before then, my body is a study.

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study: noun

a room used or designed for reading, writing, or academic work.

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I am the instructor. I am the tutor. I am the tour guide. I am the coach.

And, our curriculum is as follows:

Module 1: Vocal

Express your desires, limits, truths, discomfort, and curiosities before your back is against the wall or on the sheets of the bed.

“These are my sensitive areas.”

“I’m aroused when my nipples are touched.”

“I am more stable on the couch than on a soft mattress.”

“I like to be licked here.”

“I’m a kisser. I can kiss until my mouth is sore.”

“My favorite position is on all fours.”

“I like the sound of our skin touching.”

“My orgasms are more intense when I am lying down.”

“I am a big fan of foreplay.”

“I swallow.”

“I spit.”

“We must use protection unless you present paperwork that’s evidence of your negative statuses.”

“Wee hours and morning sex are best for me. So is weekend sex. Week nights, I’m exhausted and can’t promise a stellar performance.”

“I’ve always wanted to try anal.”

“Anal is a hard limit.”

“I don’t find pleasure in — position.”

“A finger in my butt makes me cum harder.”

“I like when you eat it and then take it out and then eat it and then put it back in.”

“When your finger is pressed against my clit, and you’re inside of me, that drives me insane.”

“I don’t like when you’re sloppy down there. It feels better when you’re licking with precision.”

“Clit stimulation is key to eating my pussy.”

Don’t be shy. Get vocal about your well-fucked reality. Because if you don’t, you will continue to seek satisfaction beyond intimate encounters with your partner.

Module 2: Virtual

Let’s consider this a tutorial of sorts. I fully believe that the secret to a well-fucked reality is masturbation and the confidence that stems from it.

Play with your pussy, babe.

It is the only true way to understand your body, how it works, what makes it go boom, how gentle or how hard, where, why…

All the questions you have surrounding your well-fucked reality can be answered by touching yourself. You’ll discover nearly everything you need to know.

So, before you teach a lesson, be sure to master the lesson yourself. And, once you have, invite your partner in for a session.

No penetration.

He’s a spectator, not a participant.

Show him exactly what you do to get to where you need to be. Allow him to collect notes. Be sure he’s focused. And, don’t hold back.

Let him see what your body can do, how it sounds, the different methods of pleasure, the pressure points, and all there is to know about his study.

Light bulbs will go off in his head frequently. New techniques will be noted. Additional channels will be opened. And, his readiness will be at its peak.

Module 3: Vocational

Once you’ve given him a tutorial… a course…

It’s time for coursework. It’s time to put his studies to the test. He’s still in the classroom, but clinicals have started.

During this time, it should be understood that the vocational period is instructional. While he has the lead, a detailed synopsis will summarize your findings.

Let him have his way.

But, be reminded of our first module.

Get vocal.

“Right here.”

“Right there.”

“Don’t stop.”

“Speed up.”

“Slow down.”

“Harder.”

“Kiss me here.”

“Touch me there.”

“Bite me.”

“Choke me.”

“I don’t like that.”

“Too rough.”

Tailor your experience. Help him understand what you want and don’t want. What you need and don’t need. He doesn’t know most of the time and has been trying to figure this out on his own. Your silence has been a disservice to both of you.

Open your mouth.

Get vocal.

Get physical.

Place your hand where you want his. Move his hand to where you need it to be. Open your mouth when you want to be kissed. Admit when it doesn’t feel good. Be honest about your climax or lack of. Touch yourself while he’s inside of you. Touch yourself while you pleasure him.

Find comfort in expressing your sexual frustrations, needs, and fantasies with the person who is stroking your pussy every chance he gets. Because, I can assure you he’s going to find his sweet spot and reach his peak every time. You have to do the same.

Module 4: Volcanic

Now that he understands your body.

Where to touch you.

How to touch you.

When it’s best to touch you.

And, clinicals have come to an end… It’s time to activate your volcano and prepare yourself for eruption after eruption.

Now, orgasms are a shared experience and not a selfless act of submission.

You can fully submit in the bedroom because you were the instructor for the tour guide. He knows what he’s doing because you taught him. You trust him.

Once he sees just how gratifying it is to know your body, his studies won’t end with what you’ve taught him. He will further his education, and you will become the student. You will begin to learn things about your body that he discovered through his studious nature.

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Let’s face it…

Some men will come into your life and teach you almost everything you know about your pussy.

Others will need instruction. It doesn’t make them any less qualified to handle your body than a man who knows women well.

Your comprehension of this article is likely based on the man who is currently in your world. I hope you received something you can carry with you either way.

Because my life’s goal is to not only be well-fucked but to empower women through my column.

Head.

Heart.

Body.

Soul.

Pockets.

Pussy.

I can’t leave any stone unturned here. So, unleash your power. The world is hardly ready for a well-fucked woman.

She’s confident.

She’s radiant.

She’s undeniable.

She’s unstoppable.

To the girls who are well-fucked, toast to you, boo.

To the girls who are on their way to being well-fucked, speak up, babe.

xo,

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